I was the victim of love bombing. Fresh out of a narcissistic abusive relationship, with the kind of narcissist everyone hates, the jerk, I didn’t even see it coming. A year out of a bad two decade-plus marriage, I thought I was ready for a new relationship. I may have…

One Advice Column Changed My Life — I go through a lot of phases where I zero in on a certain area of interest. For a few months, it will be all biographies — reading the Clarence Thomas and Anita Hill memoirs back to back was an amazing brain exercise. Another month it will be a binge…

2020 was my year of revelation. I left one bad and abusive relationship went on a bunch of go-nowhere dates, then jumped into another toxic relationship despite all the signs warning me against it. I chalk that decision up to pandemic brain. The world shifted so quickly that I clung…

After a twenty-plus year marriage, I started dating. Everyone I’d ever dated including my ex-husband, I’d met at school. A lot had changed in the dating landscape. People, I heard, weren’t meeting organically anymore. I did what ‘everyone’ does and went on dating apps: from OKCupid to Tinder and every…

Yesterday, in my usual morning practice, before I sat down to write, I was scrolling through advice columns at the same time I lingered over my morning mug of tea. I read Carolyn Hax, Ask Polly, Ask a Manager, and a few others for two reasons: the voyeurism. The voyeurism…

Parties. I find parties are great for this. I'm out to have a good time with friends, acquaintances, and to meet new people. But hey, (I just got home), don't be the drunk guy to approach me on the corner of my street when I'm with my child by saying…

I was watching this video today on YouTube from Common Ego on love bombing. Having gone through this a couple of years ago post-divorce (from another narcissist), I wanted to share what this looks like up close and personal. Often it’s hard for people to relate to these videos without…

You've hit upon the big issue here: dating apps introduce women to strangers with zero accountability. Meeting men through a social circle minimizes these two issues which can make a woman feel unsafe.

Think about it this way. Imagine men (adult men) start approaching you when you're 13 or 14. At that age, I walked everywhere. I didn't have a car to shield me from these approaches. Imagine it happens every time you leave the house, at least once, but up to ten…